No Means No and a Short Skirt Does Not Mean Yes!

This is my first ranty blog post for a while, and comes inspired from an article by Natasha Devon.

If you haven’t read her “Dress provocatively? Overweight? You're not 'asking for trouble' nor are you the root of the problem” article then you can do so here: 

http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/comment/dress-provocatively-overweight-youre-not-asking-for-trouble-nor-are-you-the-root-of-the-problem-8634750.html

I am not overly versed on all of Natashas work, but the bits I have seen have amazed me. She is an advocate for positive body image and self esteem, to say the least! You can read her Twitter updates here  - https://twitter.com/BodyGossipTash! She is well worth a follow.

I loved her article because it said what I have thought for a long time – the only person who is ever to blame for a crime is the person who carried out the crime. 

We are taught that we should hide our sat navs from view in our car, not walk down the street with our mobile phone in our hand and not to leave our front doors open. There doesn’t seem to be many people that are screaming out “don’t commit a crime”. Sure, for most of us it is built into us not to break the law, but should money really be being spent on teaching us to avoid crime over teaching people not to commit it?

I understand that we take some responsibility for our own actions and that in essence, walking down a street with our iPhone in easy grab could be seen as ‘silly’ – but actually, we SHOULD be allowed to if we want to.... and if the worse comes to worse and the iPhone is stolen, only the criminal is to blame and not the victim.

If a person of any gender wants to wear clothing that shows off a lot of flesh, they are not doing so as an invitation to drag them down a dark alley and rape them. For people who say they were asking for it or it wouldn’t have happened if they wore ‘something sensible’ that is fundamentally what you are saying. That by wearing a low cut top, or a short skirt you are also sending out an invitation that says you want to be pulled to the ground and your body violated... And, anyone who feels that there something right about this – I find you baffling!

I would love to know what other people thought of this article!

Debz x

A Thought On Advertising

People are taking the piss out of you everyday. They butt into your life, take a cheap shot at you and then disappear. They leer at you from tall buildings and make you feel small. They make flippant comments from buses that imply you’re not sexy enough and that all the fun is happening somewhere else. They are on TV making your girlfriend feel inadequate. They have access to the most sophisticated technology the world has ever seen and they bully you with it. They are The Advertisers and they are laughing at you.
You, however, are forbidden to touch them. Trademarks, intellectual property rights and copyright law mean advertisers can say what they like wherever they like with total impunity.
Fuck that. Any advert in a public space that gives you no choice whether you see it or not is yours. It’s yours to take, re-arrange and re-use. You can do whatever you like with it. Asking for permission is like asking to keep a rock someone just threw at your head.
You owe the companies nothing. Less than nothing, you especially don’t owe them any courtesy. They owe you. They have re-arranged the world to put themselves in front of you. They never asked for your permission, don’t even start asking for theirs.
- Banksy

The Subtle Approach...

I understand that messaging someone on a dating site can be a tough chore - how do you know what to say? Have you said too much, or perhaps not enough?

I think, that people like this man (whom I have never spoken to before) need to adjust this blatant copy and paste message though!

Have you ever had any interesting messages on a dating website?

Can You Been Too Keen?

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Yes.

World Wide Weirdos? Does Internet Dating Actually Work?

Oh Hi - Another blog post! 

I know I keep my posting sporadic, but I do (as ever) intend to make every effort to write regullary once again.

If you are one of my friends, then you know my internet dating life has been somewhat colourful. I have had made cries from friends to write a book about dating, however as I can't seem to write more than 2 blogs a season that seems like an idea that will never happen!

There can be no denying that the World Wide Web is more accesible to us than ever - with smart phones and tablets we can now access the internet almost anytime, anywhere. However, realistically there is only so much you can do online, so what do you do when you've run out of stuff to do? Well in my experience, people turn to online dating!

Now, I would never say that online dating doesn't work - but for me, it has been some what of a rollercoaster ride... One that has even seen me spotted out and about on the town after being on a dating website (I know... it's my fault for living somewhere small and personal like London).

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I know, he seems persistent! However, as persistance goes... This gentleman below really wins the prize! His messages (of when you can see are plenty) range from a simple smiley face, to him telling me know he knows I have read his message to him begging me to reply & go out with him. I have replied to just one message of his after he wouldn't stop messaging to tell him I was not interested... as you can see, he isn't one to give up easily!

So far for me, internet dating has done nothing but give me a few hours entertainment with crazy messages and a few dead end dates with men who couldn't commit if their lives depending on it!

However the Bridget Jones of the internet work (Complete with big pants) I hold out hope of finding my Mr Right... in the mean time, I have messages like this to keep me smiling!

Have you had much luck, or entertainment with internet dating? Do Share!